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I don’t really interact with people online. I feel like the political correctness culture, just that kind of vibe, I don’t really know what to call it. The queer community is very vast and there’s lots of different identities within it. There’s not really a consensus that we can agree to sometimes. And I think, especially in the time that we are in, where we are trying to be more aware of correctness and respect, but at the same time there’s a vibe where, like, anything that is said is like law, almost. Like someone could just say some shit and be like, ‘yo, you’re a bigot if you don’t’ or something like that and it’s, like, wait a fucking minute. Like, hold up.

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A weird thing that annoys the fuck out of me: The flags. It sounds so weird to say, but I just feel like, as a community, we’re just – I feel like hyper-labelization is obnoxious as fuck and actually harmful. I understand why wanting to have an identity that’s close to you is important, but it’s almost in a way separating all of us, and it’s just almost sometimes too hard to even manage. Like how can have straight people understand anything when I feel like, sometimes, do we understand everything going on? But the worst is when it’s, like, angry, too. It’s like, ‘yo, if you don’t know this and you’re not seeing this then you’re actually the worst.’ 

 

I feel like I zone out in a lot of queer circles. I have queer friends, but I’m not like in queer organizations and circles and I think I would find it so tiring and exhausting, to be honest. Like, damn, I’m gay, without a doubt. Love that for me. And I have tons of queer friends, but it’s not like – our queerness is everything but it’s not. And I sometimes feel like I can’t — like in those kinds of spaces, I feel like it’s suffocating, almost.

 

I was looking at a post about asexuality — other arguments aside there were some things where it was just talking about the different things. And this is one of those instances where I think it’s harmful for young LGBT people, where it’s like ‘oh I thought this but maybe I’m that’ but it doesn’t matter. Labels are important but at the same time, like, explore and figure yourself out and that’s okay and I think that’s why I’m embracing the term queer a lot more because it’s just

like, trying to pigeonhole yourself in this box I think is actually hurting you and confusing you more than anything. There were some things in that post where I was like, ‘I don’t think that’s an

identity, and I low-key think you should go to therapy.’ Like ‘you like to consume sexual content, you’d jack off or something, but the idea of someone touching you feels disgusting.’ Like, that might be okay, but also, like, wait. I’m a little worried.

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Like, someone just made this post and all of a sudden they can just have this in a form everywhere, like everything is just being sent out and so now it’s like, okay, this is almost law. I just thought, like, some of this stuff is harmful. And not all gay people are mentally ill, but I think there’s obviously a lot of us who have suffered from mental illness and different things and it’s easy to be like ‘this is my identity and I can actually just hide and have this and not have to

deal with certain things’ – it’s, like, no. I don’t think that’s true. Like, I’m worried about you. I think I’ve seen a lot of that stuff.

 

I just think it’d be nice to have more of a discussion of things together, and I think it’d be more inclusive, too, because we’re all just getting our information scattered across all these different

peoples with all these different whatever. Just having more 

discussions and real discussions and real talking and education and, like, someone proposing an idea and someone not just hating on it

or not someone just taking it for what it is. I think that’d be best. I don’t think we host a lot of that. I don’t think we have a lot of discussions.